Archive for January, 2013

Prostitution to Feed the Kids



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On the 1st of January, 2013, welfare changes came into effect in Australia where single parents on the sole parent pension were put on the unemployment benefit, Newstart which not only pays less money, all of the pension discounts are lost, making life much more expensive.

According to several media sources in Australia, this has led to a sharp increase in brothels and strip joints receiving job applications coming from single mothers so they can keep a roof over their head and food on the table for their children.

I find it rather interesting that the Australian Labor Party, a self declared bunch of Democrat Socialists who rally against the injustice of greed, have acted against exactly what their party’s Constitution declares they are about in the Preamble;

2 The Australian Labor Party is a democratic socialist party and has the objective of the democratic
socialisation of industry, production, distribution and exchange, to the extent necessary to eliminate
exploitation and other anti-social features in these fields.

I am wondering when this political party built of both the left and right wing factions are going to reword their Constitution so it states their intent to make people prostitute themselves so they can eat? A bit of honest would go in their favour, wouldn’t it?

Not that I am against prostitution. Should an adult wish to willingly participate in the career of prostitution within the confines of a legal brothel, go for it. You have my support. When people are forced into prostitution so they can eat, that is when we should be disgusted. Quite a number of sole mothers claim to be single because their ex was abusive. What a wonderful example our feminist Prime Minister has offered to our young growing girls.

Our wonderful Australian Prime Minister, Julia Gillard has dishonoured the Office of Prime Minister yet again by putting parents into the tight economic position where they must fuck to feed their children or eat out of garbage bins. And while this is happening, our God fearing Catholic mongrel and Leader of the Opposition(Liberal Party) remains ever silent. Why does it not surprise that a Catholic supports compelled prostitution? Must be something about history.

I wonder what kind of Christian moral values Tony Abbott will bring to Australian politics when he’s elected to the Office of Prime Minister? Something highly likely to happen in late 2013. After all, the one person he looks too for guidance and wisdom, Prime Minister John Howard, declared being terminally ill not a good enough to not look for a job amongst other lovely Christian moral issues driving his policies.

Can you feel my contempt?

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Kids – Study to be a Multinational CEO


DUMPED Rio Tinto boss Tom Albanese

Dear Parents,

We like to get our children to aspire to a good respectable job. Proud positions like any of the emergency services, lawyer, military, retail shop manager, teacher, etc. Times have long changed when such positions were of high regard. No dear parent, these jobs are no longer what our children should aspire too.

Let’s look at the man pictured above, former boss of Rio Tinto, Tom Albanese. The article does not give much of a story. It was looking at the front page of the hard copy of the Sydney Morning Herald which stated that Tom Albanese lost Rio Tinto a tidy sum of $14 million through a business decision to develop a coal project in a developing country in Mozambique. A failed project which lost him his job.

That’s sounds like the right decision to do, dear parent for any person who loses their boss money should not be seen as competent in their position. I am sure that you, like me, would expect that some kind of criminal charge may be around the corner. After all, if you’re losing money out of the till you are in charge off, you might be investigated.

So here is why we as parents should encourage our little blighters to become CEO’s of mega rich multinational companies. You see, Tom Albanese did lose his job for being incompetent but he also walked out with a major payout. This article linked, in isn’t very clear. The hard copy dated 18 January, 2013 claimed that Tom Albanese was awarded $18.8 million dollars.

Not a bad way to be an incompetent employee. Become a boss of a huge company, lose them shit loads of money and get paid out shit loads more money than the amount you lost them.

DUMPED Rio Tinto boss Tom Albanese – who once declared Australia a high-risk country for business – took home more than $30 million during his five-year tenure as chief executive.

Mr Albanese, who was axed from the top job on Thursday, will depart the Anglo-Australian mining giant after nearly six years in the role.

In 2010, Mr Albanese hit the spotlight when he said the federal government’s proposed resource rent tax posed a bigger sovereign risk for the company than any of its projects in developing countries. ”From my own perspective, this is my No. 1 sovereign risk issue on a global basis,” he said during the dispute between the government and mining companies over the proposed 40 per cent profits tax.

Ultimately, it was a coal project in a developing country – Mozambique – that cost Mr Albanese his job.

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Is Australia’s Future Hate Ridden?


There has been a surge of hate driven division over the past few years. Yes, I know it is not just happening within the confines of Australia but as I live in Australia and I don’t feel like writing a thesis on how much the world has gone to the dogs, I’ll stick with Australia.



Tony Abbott, Leader of the Federal Opposition

Above is Tony Abbott, Leader of the Federal Opposition/Liberal Party. For those of you outside of Australia, the Liberal Party was created as a big city middle class political party. Over the past 20 years, it has gradually moved further to the right just as the Australian Labor Party(as they dragged the left wing over along with them) has.

When John Howard was the Australian Prime Minister leading a Liberal Party Government, he wedged the classes. He used stratification offensive where those who are not so well off were demonised as sucking off the Government tit. Even the terminally ill and disabled were demonised. Nobody wanted to pay attention to fact that the growth of welfare was not to the lower end of the scale but to people who did not need a Government hand out. They took the hand outs but they gave them other names so they didn’t have to admit that they were accepting welfare. 

After the Howard Government, Australia had a short time with Kevin Rudd as Prime Minister. He was somewhat incompetent and more wanting to be a celebrity, or so it seemed but the politics of division was gone. We had no Government nudging the people to hate but Rudd did not last long and was booted by his own Labor Party who installed Julia Gillard in his place. She didn’t win the upcoming election but she did retain Office of the Minority Parliament with agreements with Independent members of Parliament.

Tony Abbott ran an excellent campaign in 2011 and did well to smash a Government in it’s first term. Highly unheard of before in Australia. People don’t just smash into first term Governments. It is from this election that Tony Abbott and his political mates in the Liberal Party have been wedging like there’s no end. Not squarely aimed at the poor though but aimed at people who are from overseas, people who are not Christian, etc.

Most recently, there was a violent clash between two groups. One group being Pacific Islanders, the other Australian Aboriginals. Their warring goes back longer than the white settlement of Australia. In comes Andrew Laming, Liberal MP for the Federal Seat of Bowman. Andrew Laming is from the Cleveland area of Brisbane who chose to use his Facebook and Twitter accounts to incite voters to hate people on welfare. He used this racial conflict to accuse them of bludging on welfare as the screen shot of his Twitter account below. I have included the whole screen shot so you can see his Twitter address.


A person holding any position of public office should be seeking to help to calm the situation down, not do what ever they can to make people angry and flare up an already sensitive situation. I am a former member of the Liberal Party back in the 1990’s and I am disgusted with what the Liberal Party has become. It was not hate ridden back then but it certainly is now. When I was a member, people from all parts of society could sit down together. It seems as if neo-nazis have taken over the Liberal Party with their malice to divide and conquer the unthinking masses.


Prime Minister Julia Gillard, followed by, Jenny Macklin who earns over $600 daily, says she can live off $35 a day…an insult spat in the face of those people struggling with the daily costs of living.


Here’s the problem that comes next. Who do you vote for when the Government under the helm of Prime Minister Julia Gillard is just as divisive who uses level of wealth/poverty, your racial background, etc to divide and conquer? It’s as if she didn’t think she could win with true leadership so she threw her arms up in the air and went with malice. We currently are seeing single parents singled out as if they are the disease that ruined Australia, painted as unemployed bludgers despite the facts, backed by stats, proving that the majority of single parents on the the Single Parent Pension do actaully work and many are studying to enable themselves to step into the world of employment. 

It gets even worse. It was only last year, 26 January 2012 when a group of Aboriginal protesters were lured into a trap. The Article, LINK HERE – made the Aboriginals look like a bunch of violent thugs but when you watch the news footage, the only punches thrown were by the Police riot squad. I regard this protest group as very controlled to refuse to throw any punches no matter how many times the Police struck them and drove them back as if they were being violent. I find it perverse that this protest group was informed of Tony Abbott’s whereabouts through the Prime Minister’s Office, given to a group known for protest action, only to have a fully dressed riot squad waiting for them. 

THE spark for the riot near the Aboriginal tent embassy that threatened Julia Gillard and Tony Abbott came from the Prime Minister’s own office when information was passed to protesters about the Opposition Leader.

One of Ms Gillard’s media advisers, Tony Hodges, resigned last night after conceding he had disclosed Mr Abbott was at The Lobby restaurant, next to the tent embassy, and information was passed to protest organisers.


“Staffer, Tony Hodges takes the sword for his Queen”, should have been the story headline. Here we have a Prime Minister who has used her Office to trick an Aboriginal group into getting into a violent clash with Police to make the Aboriginals look violent, Tony Abbott as the instigator and of course, herself as the poor little victim when in reality, she’s the perpetrator. Just as well she didn’t burn down the Reichstag. 

I read what Australian voters are posting online. I listen to what they are saying on the street. I refuse to listen to the bullshit raging on talk back radio as the shock jocks incite. All this has turned Australia into a nation where nobody trusts one another. We’re all distrustful. Somebody else is getting something better than them. Every male is a child molester. Every mum who opts to stay home to raise their children is sucking the nation dry. All young people are dumb violent drunks and lazy. 

While Australians walk around like brainless zombies, muttering mindless bullshit and allowing politicians, media groups and other interest groups with a vested interest to divide them, we the people are being royally screwed. I’d really love it if they stood back, told these groups to ‘Go and get fucked!’ and just refused to further on this hatred. 

Much of the fabric of society has been torn apart. Not by homosexuals or blacks or what have you. It’s been shredded by politicians, media groups, multinationals who suck the world’s wealth dry for themselves and us, the people who allow greed, jealousy and envy to over rule our simple commonsense. 

It’s easier to fear though. 

I can’t wait for this young generation to take over. They are questioning and telling the powers that be to shove it. They stand by each other. They help each other. They don’t accept the political bullshit shoved down their throats. They tell the powers that be to shove it!

I love it.

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Fifty Shades of Grey Poem

Fifty Shades of Grey

My missus bought a paperback
In Asda, Saturday.
I had a look inside the bag –
‘Twas “Fifty Shades of Grey”.

Well I just left her to it, see,
And went off up to bed.
An hour later, she appeared
Oh, the sight filled me with dread.

In her hand she held a rope,
The other, held a whip.
She brandished them around a bit
And then began to strip.

Well, forty years ago
I might have had a peek.
But Doris hasn’t weathered well –
She’s sixty-eight next week.

Watching Doris bump and grind
Couldn’t be much grimmer.
And things progressed from bad to worse –
She toppled off her Zimmer .

She struggled back up to her feet
A good half hour later,
Put her teeth back in and said
That I must dominate her.

Now if you knew our Doris, see,
You’d know just why I cringed.
I’d been two months in traction, ‘cos
My hips and knees unhinged.

She stood there nude. All naked, like,
Bent forward quite a bit 
and, jumping back in fright, I went
And stood on her left t*t.

Doris screamed, her teeth shot out,
My word. What HAD I done ?
She moaned and groaned then shouted out
“Step on the OTHER one”

Well reader, I can tell no more
About what occurred that day.
Suffice to say, my dark brown hair,
Turned fifty shades of grey.

Black and blue, battered too,
With wanton, wild perversion,
We decided that a night of sin
Was scarce worth such exertion.

Thank Heavens she has binned the book
And peace reigns, like before.
She’s head to toe in winceyette
And back to back, we snore.


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Spicy Pasta Yasmin’a

Was cooking with my daughter, Yasmine while throwing food together in an ad hoc mix.

Spicy Pasta Yasmin’a


500g pasta(shape of your choice)

500g mince meat

1-2 Tbsp Soy Sauce

1 green capsicum

1 shallot

half eggplant

3 slices of pineapple

1 tsp ground black pepper

1 Tbsp Rogan Josh curry paste

1-2 Tbsp BBQ sauce

1/4 cup of water

2 handfuls of shredded cheese(your flavour preference)


Cook pasta in boiled water. Rapid or boiled, your favour.

Brown mince

Add soy sauce


Add pepper and shallot


Add pineapple, eggplant, capsicum


Add the tablespoon of Rogan Josh curry paste, stir.

Add water and stir.

Stir occasionally.

Strain pasta when cooked and add to food and mix.

Add cheese and stir through.

Serves 6.

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Australia Day 2013 – Sam Kekovich & Lamb

Sam Kekovic with another ad promoting lamb for Australia Day. This is not his best but he never lets on you down.

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Nudism and Paedophiles


I am not happy. I am angry. 

When I created this blog, I told myself that I was not going to create a nudist blog simply because I have had one once. I did not have a problem with paedophiles. I had a problem with adult sex sites linking onto it because of the links including; naked, nude.

I clicked on a link to see a story that took my out of my late night stupor for as a person who raises children in a household where the children decide if they wear clothes or not, I have had to deal with fear of child molestation. When we lived in Rockhampton, my kids liked to play in the backyard both dressed and undressed. When the youngest two played outside naked aged no older than 3 and 4 years old, a lovely neighbour kept wasting Police resources on us. Well, on me. 

Police resources wasted on me, the father, because every time the Police rocked up, they only wanted to speak to me as the father, an evil insidious male out to molest children. Not once did they ask to speak to my wife. When I suggested they speak to her because she sees her children naked, they said they were not interested which led to me asking these male cops if all men are paedophiles. 

So here I am reading this article about the Nude Olympics held at Maslin Beach. First time since 2007 due to a lack of sponsorship. The organisers have allowed the Police to bully them into not allowing children to be naked at a nudist beach but the children are allowed to stand with naked adults. Where do these people get their sick demented mindset from and how do they feel this protects children from sexual assault?

I have studied Youth Work and completed the study successfully. Not once did we learn about how nudists are evil people craving to molest an innocent child. When I filled out the ‘Child Employment Blue Card’ application, I was never asked if I was a nudist, only if I had a criminal history and other related legal matters. Anybody got an idea what kind of people the way majority of child abusers are? I’ll help you; persons known to the child, most often a family member/friend or member of Clergy. Also, do you know where paedophiles hang out when they perve on children? I’ll help you on this as well; playgrounds and walking along the road. Holy moly, children are dressed while being perved on by sick bastards who should be executed.

Much of my frustration and anger is aimed not only at Police who view all men as child molesters(I’m surprised men are allowed to serve), I aim my barbed words at the mugs who organised this year’s Nude Olympics at Maslin Beach.

Why? Because by forcing children to cover up, they are aiding the view that children are in danger in a naturist community. I am also angry because it is not illegal for children to be naked on any public beach so why are they allowing themselves to be treated as if they are evil?

With attracting paedophiles. Nudist beaches do have a history of attracting perves but they attract perves who come to look at developed women because they have been raised in a society which can only see non-sexualised nudity as a ranging STI exchanging sexual orgy. Nudists don’t show women’s breasts to sell shoes along with a congo line of products unrelated to a woman’s mammary glands. 

It was only back in the 1980’s when I went to Sydney beaches such as Cronulla Beach where they had indoor and outdoor showers at the beach. Some used the indoor shower, some used the outdoor shower. I remember seeing both genders and people of all ages rinsing off in the outdoor shower, many of them naked in public. This never cause children to be taken for a sick round of child sex.

If anything, the communities with the biggest histories of child abuse are family members and religious clergy. So why aren’t we banning them from being around children? 

How is this for a child protection measure; instead of locking up children from having a childhood, how about the idea of using a length of rope or a guillotine to execute people who molest children? 


CHILDREN taking part in this year’s Nude Olympics at Maslin Beach will be told to wear clothes to deter paedophiles.

South Coast police have advised organisers of the Sunday, January 20, event to ensure all children are wearing bottoms while taking part in any events, including the children’s sack race and treasure hunt.

South Coast Sgt Malcolm Marr said police met with organisers to provide advice about safety at the event.

“We thought it was appropriate to advise that children wear bottoms to deter any untoward behaviour,” Sgt Marr said.

Organiser Debbie Pillar, whose Pilwarren resort near Swan Reach is sponsoring the event, said she wanted the day to be a “safe family event”.


Rant over.

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What Heat?



Last night they were giving Greater Sydney an extreme weather warning for a blistering hot day. With predictions averaging at 45’C(113’F), I threw all of my clothes on a pyre, poured over some flammable liquid and set them alight. With hot weather like that, who needs clothing?

Now it is a quarter past three in the afternoon and it is at its hottest so far today, only 37’C(98.6’F). The online weather website says it is 39.4’C(109.92’F) with humidity at 20% and I have barely broken a sweat. I burned all my cottons for this?

Okay, I confess. I have spent the all but two out of the past 12/13 years up in Queensland. Most of them up in the tropics of Capricornia in a regional city called, Rockhampton. It is cool up there now at the moment for them at just under 32’C(90’F) with a low humidity of 36%. You see, up there in Rockhampton it is usually around the 40’C(104’F) mark with humidity between 80% to 100% during the day. So I guess I am a bit spoilt. I look around at all the red coloured drained faces as I’m asked; Aren’t you hot?

It is a warm day for sure. It certainly makes my empty water glass warm to touch when I pick it up and it does make my neurological health play up on me a bit but nothing like it did up north in the tropics where I struggled to do simply daily things like opening doors when the heat struck.

My 11 and 9 year old girls have gone for a walk in this weather. They don’t seem too bothered at all but all they know is the tropical weather up north and they played in that. I sit here in the raw, not bothering with clothes. Who needs clothing when it makes you hotter as it reduces the body’s ability to cool itself.

I am a naturist though so who needs an excuse to let the body cool itself down in the heat by burning the cottons on the fire?

I feel like going skinny dipping!


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The Welfare Debate

The discussion that won’t, can’t and shan’t go away is the discussion no how much a person on welfare is paid. This time it has it the media waves because the Labor Government in Australia has decided that single parents should not receive the parenting pension once the youngest child turns eight years old which, the media claim is $90 a less per week.

I say claim as there are such recipients coming out saying that they are losing a lot more such as one who has lost over $200 a week because she does work. The amount lost is higher than we are told because they are not including the monies lost when you work which is not an accurate picture for most of these parents do hold some employment and many are trying to further themselves with education which they say, they have to leave because the less money makes it unaffordable for them, further entrenching them into unemployment and poverty.

I will post a few article on this matter and would like to start off by posting this article from, ‘The Conversation‘ which is an education website.

31 August 2012, 3.36pm AEST

Down and out, and on the dole: why the Newstart Allowance needs a raise

Why do we have welfare policies that create unnecessary poverty?

Despite a multitude of reports, submissions, public pleas and other advocacy on the problems of Newstart (NSA) recipients, the government has been adamant – until now – that change is unnecessary. This is in spite of unusually wide agreement that most of over 600,000 people on Newstart and related payments cannot survive financially because the payments are too low to cover any levels of decent living. How this is happening was clearly expressed by Kasy Chambers from Anglicare on Tuesday last week.

When confronted with that information, responses from the two biggest political parties – and a very large slab of the commentariat – argue that the best (or only) answer is a job. It’s implied if you can’t manage on Newstart, it must be smokes, pokies, laziness or incompetence that is to blame. Beneath these arguments are the presumptions that people on the Newstart allowance who may have out-of-date work skills, caring responsibilities, or ill health don’t really want to work or contribute to the community around them – and that we have a duty to make them. The inadequacy of the allowance is thus punishment for their individual moral failings – and a necessary incentive for them to get out and get a job.

Maybe there are finally signs of some shift. Last Thursday, Bill Shorten finally agreed to look at the payment levels, albeit as a response to such pressure, rather than recognition of the problems. However, he did say that “it’s important to be clear that we care deeply and that those in Canberra who make decisions don’t have a tin ear to community concerns. It would be very, very tough living on $35 a day. And anyone in my business that denies this must surely be either heartless or utterly out of touch”.

Is this the sign that change may come? The following material examines the prejudices and their origins. Much come from assumptions about those on the payment which are quite wrong and unfair. People already draw these payments under quite restrictive conditions of eligibility and most have serious job search or other participation requirements. They become eligible because of their proven lack of access to other forms of income, including higher payments. While more than half are defined as job seekers, many others are sick or otherwise incapacitated and therefore exempted. Others are in forms of training or job related skill acquisition or have carer and other responsibilities that limit their ability to take on paid work. There are now more sole parents and people with disabilities being put onto Newstart as eligibility for other payments are tightened. These still have limits on the jobs they can find. Yet as a payment category, all of these diverse (often seriously disadvantaged people) seem to be condemned as not worthy of adequate income for a decent existence.

The statistical distributions support the diversity as is clear in theNATSEM report just released, done for some churches:

As of June 2012, Australia had 663,000 persons either on Newstart Allowance or job seeker Youth Allowance. Of these, the average duration on some form of income support was 2.6 years. Around one in four remain continuously on income support for more than two years (Australian Government, 2009).

A single person without children on Newstart receives a benefit of $244.85 per week3 4. This equates to around $12,766 per annum … A single pensioner receives $377.75 per week while average weekly earnings for male total earnings is $1298 per week. Newstart for singles equates to 18 per cent of average male earnings and 40 per cent of the current minimum wage ($606 per week). At 40 per cent of the minimum wage there is clearly a very strong incentive to move to paid employment.

A majority of recipients of these payments are clearly disadvantaged in many ways that derive from external factors, not from their own actions. Only 30% are on the payments for less than three months, and often have to wait before they can access the payment; most are on for much longer. The long-term recipients tend to be less formally qualified than the rest of the working age population. They may have difficulties with employers because of age, recent migration, ethnic background or forms of disability. About half of the long-term recipients are not registered with job search agencies, as job seekers expected to actively look for paid work. This suggests they are seen as too old or with issues and problems that make employment very unlikely.

The NATSEM paper shows only 10.6% of NSA/YA persons have a bachelor’s degree or higher, compared with 23% of others. At the other end, 35.4% of NSA/YA recipients have not made it past year 10 compared with 23.4% of the working age population. They also tend to suffer more ill health than higher income groups, as is shown by the most recent AIHW report, which reduces their chances of finding work. The problems of NSA recipients finding jobs are likely to become worse . Sole parent numbers are about to increase in 2013, as an extra 60,000 sole parents will shortly be transferred from their grandfathered payments. These have care responsibilities which employers don’t like. More people with disabilities are being rejected as criteria for DSP are tightened.

The coalitions of those blaming the victim are still making noises. A Centre for Independent Studies op-ed continues the assumptions despite quoting two of their usual suspects supporting a rise.

“There is growing momentum for raising the dole. Even the Business Council of Australia has joined the likes of the Australian Council of Social Service and the Greens in calling for increasing the $245-weekly Newstart allowance, saying it is a barrier to employment and can entrench poverty. This follows unlikely advocates in Judith Sloan and Ian Harper, who have both said the dole is too low compared with the $378 weekly disability support pension, or the $606.40 weekly minimum wage.

The case for a higher Newstart may be stronger for the long-term unemployed. However, any increase for this group should be accompanied by some degree of mutual obligation. After all, there is no point giving more money to people on unemployment benefits without making sure they are using that money to look for work.

A more targeted and prudent option could be a financial supplement, like a job-seeker’s bonus, where payment is conditional on meeting additional job-search requirements, or eligibility for mobility allowance and/or rent assistance could be broadened to include more Newstart recipients who meet the same job-search requirements.”

This view feeds into the assumption that the problem is always with the income recipient, rather than employer prejudices or lack of suitable jobs. The danger is that such a view plays into current beliefs that assume the jobs are there for people with no recent job experiences or certain qualifications.

At any one time, there are about 200,000 vacant jobs listedmost of which are for skilled people with recent experience. The question is: why is this type of payment so politically suss? It obviously appeals to the misinformed voter prejudices. Add in the current bipartisan support for imposing income management on many of these recipients, and the stance provides convenient – if irrational – scapegoats for politicians wanting to look tough.

The political classes see more benefit in playing to media and public prejudices against “dole bludgers”, sole parents, and presumed welfare cheats than recognising that the limited jobs available are not suitable for most of these jobs seekers. They ignore the consequences of disheartening, ritualised unsuccessful job seeking and being knocked back or ignored constantly. The government maintains that raising the levels of Newstart would decrease incentives for finding work, but offer no proof that very low payments increase job search successes.

In fact, the reverse is likely as the very limited cash available means no extra money for haircuts, fares, papers, phones or other job related costs. The evidence from the social determinants of health data shows how lack of adequate income can lead to loss of feelings of agency, and therefore the confidence that is necessary to do a good job interview.

These people live on far less than is reasonable or fair. They have become part of an underclass of long-term poor who need to use food services and other welfare support systems just to survive, that has no place in a wealthy society. They inhabit a grey zone of lack of political clout, blamed for the plethora of disadvantages they suffer. As there is no evidence (here or overseas) that lowering payments and increasing conditionality leads to more effective job seeking, why build this into policy?

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Rules for your children using mobile/cell phones

American mother, Janell Hofmann gave her 13 year old son an iPhone as a gift. I do find it an interesting gift when the rules set by mum is that it is her phone. Anyway, Janell set down 18 rules to abide by.

When we gave our eldest a phone, we didn’t even think of laying down rules like this but we did tell her not to send naked photos of herself due to how other people abuse the trust of people and once those photos are out, you can’t take them back. Even though this household is open and friendly to non sexualised nudity as a life style choice, putting them out can be very dangerous.

One of my favourite points as a parent who supports children growing up without being molly coddled, is point 17. The following below are the points as quoted.

1. It is my phone.  I bought it.  I pay for it.  I am loaning it to you.  Aren’t I the greatest?

 2.  I will always know the password.

 3.   If it rings, answer it.  It is a phone.  Say hello, use your manners.  Do not ever ignore a phone call if the screen reads “Mom” or “Dad”.  Not ever.

 4.  Hand the phone to one of your parents promptly at 7:30pm every school night & every weekend night at 9:00pm.  It will be shut off for the night and turned on again at 7:30am.  If you would not make a call to someone’s land line, wherein their parents may answer first, then do not call or text.  Listen to those instincts and respect other families like we would like to be respected. 

5.  It does not go to school with you.  Have a conversation with the people you text in person.  It’s a life skill.  *Half days, field trips and after school activities will require special consideration.

6.  If it falls into the toilet, smashes on the ground, or vanishes into thin air, you are responsible for the replacement costs or repairs.  Mow a lawn, babysit, stash some birthday money.  It will happen, you should be prepared.

7.  Do not use this technology to lie, fool, or deceive another human being.  Do not involve yourself in conversations that are hurtful to others.  Be a good friend first or stay the hell out of the crossfire. 

8.  Do not text, email, or say anything through this device you would not say in person.

9.  Do not text, email, or say anything to someone that you would not say out loud with their parents in the room.  Censor yourself.

10.  No porn.  Search the web for information you would openly share with me.  If you have a question about anything, ask a person – preferably me or your father. 

11.  Turn it off, silence it, put it away in public.  Especially in a restaurant, at the movies, or while speaking with another human being.  You are not a rude person; do not allow the iPhone to change that.

12.  Do not send or receive pictures of your private parts or anyone else’s private parts.  Don’t laugh.  Someday you will be tempted to do this despite your high intelligence.  It is risky and could ruin your teenage/college/adult life.  It is always a bad idea.  Cyberspace is vast and more powerful than you.  And it is hard to make anything of this magnitude disappear – including a bad reputation.

13.  Don’t take a zillion pictures and videos.  There is no need to document everything.  Live your experiences.  They will be stored in your memory for eternity.

14.  Leave your phone home sometimes and feel safe and secure in that decision.  It is not alive or an extension of you.  Learn to live without it.  Be bigger and more powerful than FOMO – fear of missing out. 

15.  Download music that is new or classic or different than the millions of your peers that listen to the same exact stuff.  Your generation has access to music like never before in history.  Take advantage of that gift.  Expand your horizons.

16.  Play a game with words or puzzles or brain teasers every now and then.

17.  Keep your eyes up.  See the world happening around you.  Stare out a window.  Listen to the birds.  Take a walk.  Talk to a stranger.  Wonder without googling. 

18.  You will mess up.  I will take away your phone.  We will sit down and talk about it.  We will start over again.  You & I, we are always learning.  I am on your team.  We are in this together.


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