Posts tagged parenting

Born Again Helicopter Parent

I’m a Born Again Helicopter Parent. That makes me better than the usual hoverers who are not doing enough to protect the children. We need to take the next several leaps up to protect our children so I’m lobbying that all babies have their limbs cut off at birth.

The arms so they can’t pick things up and put them in their mouths, etc. And legs so they can’t run around and fall over.

It’s best to be safe.

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Emotions of a Negligent Parent

I really try not to criticise the parenting styles of other parents for you never know the story behind the veil of household secrecy and why they do things the way they do. I certainly do not appreciate when it is done to us.

You see, I continue to feel for today’s youth who are raised as if they are as fragile as an egg that smashes and splatters on falling off a bench and strikes the kitchen floor only for the household dog or cat to polish off. How are these mites going to cope as adult when things go wrong for them since they’ve been divorced from taking a risk no matter how small?

“Don’t climb that tree son, you’ll fall” – “Don’t run Suzy, you’ll slip and graze your knee” – “Don’t roll down that hill, Bill. You’ll get an itchy back” – “Don’t Hi-5 anyone. That’s sexual assault”

I feel like the inmates the mental asylum were removed from their hospital ward only to be transferred to Parliament and anointed as legislators.

I put a lot of blame across the board. I blame politicians who fan the flames of fear so they can trick people into sacrificing liberty. I blame media for pouring fuel on the fire of insanity to make people think they’re about to be butchered to death by some Kung Fu grasshopper. And I blame the people for being so brainless for they listen to every bit of bullshit politicians and journalists crap on about because they’re too dumb or lazy to use a single braincell and think for themselves.

The World is not that scary people.

I was out for a short time on Friday night dropping off one of my daughters at a sleepover birthday party one of her friends was having. One of the parents there, a Dad, also had his fourteen year old daughter with him as you cannot leave them home alone at the tender young age for fourteen. This fragile young lass apparently had only just had her first outing with her girlfriends at the local shopping centre without her Mum or Dad around but only because a parent of one of her friends was there with them at all times. *smashes own forehead in with a brick*

As I stood there listening to this, the other parent nodding along in agreement, my thoughts I was keeping inside the confines of my mind leaked out through my callous mouth; “I traveled alone on a bus from Sydney to Melbourne at the age of 12 to visit relatives”. They just looked at me. I think they saw images of children being smashed to smithereens by a hoard of lustful men craving to molest every child is sight. Just as well I didn’t mention that I was also taking taking the train and bus to a small country town and going to the beach, and riding my bicycle down the mountain road, etc all without adult supervision.

I must be getting old for I can hear the old man voice warming up with, “Back in my day…”

Have we become anal in protecting our children from the realities of life or am I just starting to experience the myriad of emotions of being the ever negligent parent?

 

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Dating My Daughters

We fathers who have daughters don’t behave like protective lions until they start attracting boys so here is a little fun advice to you Dads out there with daughters becoming appealing to boys.

 

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Big Think Interview With Lenore Skenazy

I came across this video of Lenore Skenazy answering questions for ‘Big Think’ this morning and thought I’d share it.

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Free Ranging – Letting Our Kids Loose

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My youngest two children climbing a playground while visiting Emu Plains.

 

Our youngest two children are aged nine and eight years old, waiting to turn ten and nine later this year. A lot of children these days simply don’t have the self confidence that children once had and the reason is that they are not allowed to be independent, able to explore and are hovered over far too much. Mine aren’t anxious but they don’t have the confidence I believe they should have.

Go to children’s playgrounds and you’ll often seen parents lifting their kids up the climbing toys instead of letting them climb which strengthens their muscles and develops their motor skills. As well as helping them to be develop the skills needed as an adult to make decisions based on good/bad risks, etc.

With regard to my youngest two, a boy and a girl, the boy the youngest, my wife and I sent them off to the park just a short walk from home with just each other as company. No elder sisters, no Mum, no Dad. They could go off together and play on what little  has been supplied by the Local Council or run about on the large space of grassed area. They know the rules of not going anywhere with strangers but not to be afraid of strangers.

When they came home, they were the happiest I’ve seen them after time at a park than I’ve seen for a long time. They were glowing with happiness because they loved being able to play without being watched over. The feeling of trust also gave them a quick confidence boost. What they ended up doing mostly while there, was climbing trees.

They obviously loved it yesterday afternoon because they are off again but this time at their request. Not only have they gone to play up a tree they love to climb, they asked to take a small picnic lunch with them so they can eat and play there. Ahh, the feeling of independence and trust placed in them.

I don’t expect them to be showing the positive results just as yet but from what I’ve seen in this small amount of time, I do believe that the results will most likely develop in them sooner than thought. Then again, I have no idea how long it will take for them to develop this confidence boost.

Like other kids these days, they have been showing a lack of confidence in decision making and a bit scared to take simple risks. The way forward is letting them free. There is more than enough evidence to prove it. Doctors in Australia have started to publicly ask parents, carers and schools to let children run amok. Let them run, trip, climb and fall. The Doctors are seeing more than enough of children breaking more bones than before to accidents that should not see a bone break. The lack of physical activity and a the lack of sun on their bodies is a health hazard.

Now that they love this park and going alone, the next steps is the oval with a little playground a little further away but there are shops just across the road where they can buy something to eat and drink. Will have to buy them both a new helmet for their bikes so they ride around once again.

A caged chicken is unfit for consumption. A free ranged chicken is stronger, healthier and tastier. Let the kids run free!

 

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A Consequence of Fearing Strangers

It was late yesterday on a Thursday afternoon, a day before Good Friday where I was sitting on a wooden bench seat while the missus was doing some shopping. I had just sat there watching plain clothes Police swoop a man who had just walked out of the supermarket without paying for all of the items when a mother left her two young children while she went to the supermarket.

She sat her two primary school aged children on the same seat I was sitting on. I assume they would have been in grades 5 & 4 roughly. The girl, the youngest of the two, was sitting closest to me where she was struggling to remove plastic of the toy her mother had bought for her so I offered her a key to use cut into the plastic. What a response.

This girl immediately leaned into her brother. He quickly grabbed her and stood on the other side of the shopping trolley and huddled as if they had just been traumatised, then grabbed the trolley and walked to a different spot, occasionally looking at me. The girl was so fearful that she looked like she was going to cry.

Nice go, Mum!

Now that you have your children completely shit scared to have any stranger talk to your kids, what are they going to do should something actually happen and they need to talk to a stranger? Do they need a Police Officer to trust? There were two plain clothed Police standing right there in front of us the whole time but your kids wouldn’t know that they were there due to a lack of uniforms worn so those two men would be dangerous too.

And when they reach adulthood, how emotionally damaged will these two children be?

Teach your children about stranger danger but not that all strangers are dangerous.

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Toddler Drives Car – Cops Spit The Donut

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Baby Driver on the Rampage

In the State of Victoria here in supposedly laid back Australia, the Police are on the hunt for a man or maybe even a couple who put a toddler behind the wheel of a car while driving through suburbia.

The video and article can be found HERE 

After watching the video, you will, if you think anything like me, quickly come to the realisation that the car is traveling at a safe pace along a quiet suburban road, not along a busy highway or such. And, the man’s hands are actually attached to the steering wheel. The man is controlling the car, not the child.

Call me old fashioned if you must but isn’t this how we once raised our children before we became scared of our fragile little mites tripping over a blade of grass and fracturing at least half of their skeletal system?

I have a cousin who had the luxury of growing up on a large country property. By the time he was ten or twelve years old, he was able to drive everything up to a semi-trailer. Yep, all 36 wheels worth. He could even drive and work on tractors and motorbikes and knew how to safely handle a rifle and shoot pigs. He’s still alive and last I heard, now owns his own transport business.

Had I in my possession, rented or owned, a property where the kids could drive around the property in what we Australians once referred to as a ‘paddy basher’, I would. A car small enough for a ten year old to reach to reach the pedals and a seat belt that works. What a way to learn how to drive. The fun way!

But we’re in the big city surrounded by a never ending sea of concrete. So we can’t. Such is life.

I hope the Police don’t get hold of these people as I can see the Child Welfare mob weighing into it. While the Police are restrained by evidence, the Child Welfare set are restrained only by the limits of their own imagination.

Do you agree with the Police and that they endangered the child or are you like me and crave to rip away the endless sea of bubble wrapping from our society?

 

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